How Breaking My Phone, Broke Me

 

Thrifted blazer. Tags were still attached. Tag price $249 #winning

Hi there. It’s been a while. Life has been happening on my end as I am sure it has on your’s as well. But we are still here!! So let me get to the meat of this post.

This past Sunday, I was out enjoying an adventurous evening with my youngest daughter Alivia. She was attempting to ride in this Little Tikes car that she has had since she was a year old and she is now 7, imagine that. Anyway, she is my all things picture taker so I asked her to quickly snap a picture for me. While she was trying to park her car and get prepared to honor my request, my phone slipped out of her hand and splattered all on the concrete (NO, I didn’t have a secure case, I know). She immediately started crying and apologizing. I had to gather my feelings and let her know that I was not upset with her at all and that it was actually all my fault. Our enjoyable evening then became a frantic search for me another phone or a way to mend my phone’s brokenness. Then I became mad at myself. I should’ve been more focused on enjoying our afternoon stroll than worrying about getting that perfect IG picture. As we walked back home after the incident I felt lost.

Lost about my phone and lost about life in that very moment. I truly felt like that broken phone was what I needed. I have said for a while now I needed a break from social media and from chaos and because I wasn’t strong enough to take it for myself, God helped his crazy, little daughter out. Verizon couldn’t help that day so I had to order a new phone. The phone that would take two days to get to me. I remained calmed and focused on making sure I could still use whatever means I had to communicate with my mom and daughters throughout the day. Day 2 came and the delivery person did not leave my phone at my home or the office. Instead of panicking yet again, I continued to enjoy the break that God was clearly giving me. So during this time I decided to think about what life without a phone for these past few days has shown me. It basically allowed me to disconnect from social media’s reality and also showed me myself in real life.  I have allowed social media to take over so much of my life these past few months. Don’t get me wrong, I love the outlet and being able to connect with old and new friends, blogger boos, family and grow different businesses. But none of that can replace the special time, memories and bonds that I have been able to share with my children these past 3 days. One moment I will treasure is coming home from work on Tuesday and my almost 14-year-old daughter, Ayana asked me to sit on the couch and watch a teen, chic movie with her. The movie was actually awesome with a great moral lesson about friendships. We watched the entire movie without any distractions. To have her cuddling with me without either of us on our phones was amazing. Even having uninterrupted story time at night with my youngest has made her world.

Check out my band aid accessory. A broken wine glass caused this accident of course!

I am sure people take mental breaks from social media all the time and that is great if you can and do but if not, sometimes life will force you to. I truly know that God listens to me because when I am not strong enough to do things on my own, he does them for me. Even now that I am back on social media, it will be with limits. I was able to focus more on my 9 to 5 and be more productive at work and at home. I was able to think more clearly about the direction that I want my businesses, relationships and life to go. I realized that I was getting lost in the chaos instead of standing out and creating peace. It hasn’t been a break just from social media, it has been a break from all things stressful, even people. Refocusing on things that are important and growing from the difficulties of life.

I finally got my phone yesterday and it took an act of God and two Verizon technicians to fix a glitch in order for it to work properly. FINALLY around 10pm last night, I was back in technology world. I even made my way to 5 Below and found me a nice old super protective phone case and screen for this delicate iPhone of course. Anyway, I said all that to say this. Don’t look up from your phone or computer one day and your kids are adults, parents are gone, friends are few and relationships are gone. Find a balance. Set limits. I am glad to be back but I have enjoyed being gone!

As always thanks for reading!

xo, Eve

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Wall to Wall

Good Monday evening. I am typing this as I sit at my work station confused as to why I am sitting at this work station. But then I realize I have mouths to feed and bills to pay even though lately that seems like more than I care to discuss. Backup to this morning, I did a live video on Facebook talking about not quitting. How we have to keep going even when it seems like we have every reason to quit. The reality is that we have to keep going because there are people we have yet to meet that need us. Does this make it easier? NO! Yet nothing comes easy these days, everything seems like it takes literally an act of congress to proceed to the next dimension of life. Let me move on to why I am writing today.

I am pretty sure that when you saw that topic you were like where is she going with this. So let me go ahead and ease your curiosity. Let me be transparent. I have walls built in my life taller than what you know who wants to build. Mainly because sometimes hurt can be too much to carry. So I build these walls of protection which sometimes aren’t truly protecting anything. You know how your intentions are to protect something but you do more harm than protecting? Those are my walls. I am at a point in my life where God has me exposed. My flaws, my weaknesses, my hurt, my brokenness. Now I know He is going to turn it around for my good, but these walls are coming down too fast. I often look up at Him and say, “ok, Sir I need you to slow down just a tad bit”.  When God exposes you there is no oops, let me cover up. There isn’t a cover up big enough for that. Proverbs 4:23 tells us above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. Wow! How powerful is that, physically and literally. The verses are that one continue on to tell us how we should behave with one another and in life. No where does it say build a wall though. I mean I can make it up if I want to but it will not override what He has already said.

Wall to wall is the notion that we can’t move anywhere if we keep putting up walls that we will eventually run into. Walls will have you thinking that everyone is out to harm you. Walls will have the love of your life right under you nose but you have built a wall and can’t see it. Walls will have your financial breakthrough right there waiting but prior bad investments have you scared. Walls will have your purpose staring at you in the face but you have that wall of  fear of failure blocking your view. Walls will have that new marriage on the horizon but that bad divorce has you putting up walls in front of every new potential you meet. Everything God does is intentional. As broken as we are, what’s better than having the Master himself sculpt us back to life. Where we have walls, He wants our trust. Those walls could very well be blocking access to the very things that God needs and wants us to have.

 

All of our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them-Walt Disney

 

Thank you for reading. If nothing else, just know that you are not in this wall banging situation alone. Yet, we can all escape together!

xo, Eve

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Lace and Florals-Simple and Classy

So I jumped on to do a quick blog on my look from yesterday.  I was feeling blah and wanted to brighten up my mood a bit. The first two outfits I grabbed from my closet were a NO. I happened to see this black lace dress that I found at Goodwill last year and only worn once to a wedding. However, I didn’t think it was appropriate for me to wear to church (just me, but people can wear what they want to where they want) but I still wanted to make it work.

        Thrifted LBD Express Brand-Goodwill

So being the fashionista that I am, I remembered my pretty floral kimono that I purchased from Poshmark. Poshmark is basically an online consignment shop. I consider it an online thrifting adventure. I’ve worn this kimono several times with several looks and it always works. So why not try it with a pretty LBD.

   Kimono-Poshmark; Swimwear-Gifted; Beach bag Francesca’s

Lace, stripes, and florals have become my go to prints for the summer.  Alone or mixing and matching them together, they always seem to work. Today I tied the kimono over the dress and created a look that I was comfortable with enough to wear to church. A client gifted me with some pin on accessories for my birthday, so I closed the cleveage area with the pearl pin

To complete the look, I added some simple accessories from Paparazzi Accessories  which can be be found on my website Eve’s Paparazzi. Looking great doesn’t have to break the bank. Select versatile pieces that can be worn together or as separates. Maximize what’s in your closet before heading to the stores to grab a piece you may already own!

As always thanks for stopping by!!

xo, Eve

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Liberating 37…….My 37th Birthday in Retrospect

July 15, I celebrated my 37th birthday. I was really thinking that it would feel like just another birthday but actually it doesn’t. I feel so liberated. So free to be completely me. I wanted to do 37 lessons I’ve learned in 37 years but truthfully I don’t have the time to devote to my own thoughts.

So let me just share a few of them with you.

1. I’ve learned how to breathe.

Not literally but figuratively. I have learned how to just pause and breathe when life seems to be beating the heck out of me. I realize that some things just have to happen. It’s not what happens to me but how what happens to me changes me for the better. So if you are always a super busy mom, wife. friend. whatever your role is, give yourself the gift of breathing.

2.  Pray.

I know it sounds so cliché but I really don’t care. Practice praying. Not how someone else does it but how you are lead. Prayer has kept me alive for 37 years. Trust me, I know. Not only my prayers but those of surrounding love ones who knew to pray when I didn’t have the strength to pray for myself.

3.  Get rid of drama.

Seriously. Enough already. If you don’t protect your peace, who will? Vow to be drama free. You will feel be calmer and able to hear from God as to what His plan and purpose is for your life. Plus I’m getting too mature to keep telling folks what they should already know.

4. Dress to impress.

Do your best. Just make sure if you’re slaying on the outside that your inside is just as pretty. Nothing like a pretty, ugly person! (I think I made that up, but I like it:)) OH, Go thrifting. You’ll look good on a dime! I promise. 

5. Stay connected to not-just-transactional friends.

I have some bomb-ass friends. Let me just say that. I mean the real deal kinda chics. The ones who loan me money when I am struggling. The ones who pray for me when I am hurting. The ones who don’t judge when I am being trifling. They love me in action and with words. Get you some of those because I am not sharing.

6.  Own your mess.

It’s not easy but you gotta do it! Once you own it, no one can use it against you. There is so much freedom in owning your mess. I have been in a messy separation for the last few years and it has taken a lot for me to own my mess. But now that I have and I have used it to be better, you can’t tell me nothing. It’s been worth every stressful event that has happened.

7. Inspire others.

There is something in you that is inspiring. We don’t live for ourselves all the time. Sometimes we live for others. Someone  is watching to see if you make it so they have the hope that they can too. Don’t let them down. It’s a lot of pressure but it’s for a promise. You already know who our Promise Keeper is! And remember you aren’t living life alone.

8. Watch Dirty Dancing and believe in love

Yep, that’s my favorite movie. My freshman roommate turned bestie and I used to watch it daily. It made us smile and believe that love is out there. Even if we miss the mark a few times, the bullseye is coming and we will hit it spot on.

9.  Don’t let people into your life so quickly or give away your last name before a new one is worthy

This has been the  hardest lesson for me to learn. Sometimes the past pushes us into the future so fast that we forget to stop and breathe (lesson #1) Make a promise to yourself to take time for yourself. Don’t allow people to read the entire book of you before you are ready. Honor yourself and they will honor you.

10.  Stop living in denial, face reality.

Whew, this last one is direct and hard. It’s not always easy. It’s usually painful but you will come out so much stronger. Denial keeps you hurt. Forgiving and loving others  allows to you live freely. Don’t worry about what you imagined life to be, focus on what it is and faith through it! 

So with these 10 lessons, I really have millions more but take them in and apply. Life is too short to be anything but living! Thank you for reading and thanks for all of the birthday love shown.

 

xo, Eve

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Day to Night Style…..The Suit, The LBD, Layer it up!

 

Hi there! The Fourth of July holiday has concluded and some of us are trying to get settled back into the work week on a hump day! Crazy right? At least that means we only have two more work days left in the week. Today on the blog I want to share with you how you can choose the perfect outfit that works for the work slay as well as the after work scene. I was chatting it up with some blogger friends last night and we shared how we are usually slighted misunderstood because of our we show up at work. But we all know that the world is our runway so why not?!

Every lady needs a look that says Girl Boss and recognize it but then the ability to transition effortlessly into your flirty and let your hair down side after office hours. So I have a few style tips to try to assist you with this task.

Suit It Up!

I know you are like ughhhh I despise stuffy suits but not all suits are plain and basic. A killer suit can take you from day to night. Finding a suit that fits is key. You know I am an avid thrifter, so the thrift store is always my go to place for a nice, quality suit. A classic white or black suit, or even opt for one in bold color and style it your way! During the day wear a crisp button down with a statement necklace. At night ditch the blazer  and let your neckpiece run the show!  Toss the handbag for a clutch! Get rid of the basic pumps and throw on some heels with inches and compliment your day look with a little edginess for the night cap and you are ready for the after work sip and chat!

My blogger friend @curveebeauty slaying in this suit attire.

 

The LBD ( Little Black Dress)

Every woman has to have the little black dress collection. You can pull it off with anything combination and for any event! If you don’t own one, let me help you find one or again head to your local thrift store and get to it! It is a staple piece to transition from day to night.

This LBD can easily make the work scene by adding a white, black or a pop of color blazer and transition into the night scene!

 

For work, make your black dress appropriate for your work atmosphere. Doesn’t have to be fancy for work or the after scene. Make sure the dress compliments your body type or wear undergarments to make everything smooth and flattering. Match with heels to compliment your legs and body shape. Grab your work tote and boss it. Now, for the night look, add a blazer or scarf! Any colors will work! Some attention grabbing earrings and again a nice clutch or smaller handbag and work the scene!

Layer it Up!

When in doubt, layer! My favorite fashion thing to do is layer clothing pieces. It’s trendy yes, but I have been layering for years. Especially in the fall and winter because I dislike bulky jackets. So I make sure to layer enough to be both warm and cute. But even for the warmer weather, layering works. Now when I layering it’s not always the clothes. For work, add a belt or scarf to your look that will flatter your waistline. Dusters are at an all time high fashion piece right now. Wear with dresses, jeans, shorts, everything basically! For the night life, you can also layer without feeling stuffy. Layering necklaces work. Adding a cute cardigan to a dress or skirt and top! If you prepare ahead of time, your work look doesn’t even have to change. You can step out of the office and into a wine tasting with no changing at all!

I purchased this red dress at my local Triad Goodwill! Opted to layering over some jeans and added heels! You can easily take this look from work to play!

 

So there you have it! Wasn’t that easy? You probably already have these looks in your closet. If not, get to thrifting! lol

Thanks for stopping by!

 

xo, Eve

 

 

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