Women In Power Brunch 2017

CEO, Founder Women In Power, Inc Trina Boyd Photo creds: Ohh Snaps! Premiere Photography (Charlotte, NC)

On September 16, 2017, I had the pleasure of traveling to Charlotte, NC to attend the 2nd Annual Women in Power Brunch, hosted by Trina Boyd. The brunch location, Solis Southline was nothing less than beautiful and accommodating. I enjoyed meeting and chatting with the many vendors, entrepreneurs, speakers, and guests in attendance.

My biggest takeaway from the event was the powerful words from Kiaera Douglas, CEO and Founder of EmpowHer Me Enterprises. The phrase, “being in the right place at the right time”  is all that I could think of while she speaking encouraging words into the lives of so many beautiful women.

She spoke on 4 Ways to Not Allow Your Fire to Die.

  1. Fuel-Speak life into your vision!
  2. Initiate-Get to work. Go get your people!
  3. Recharge-Too much of anything is unhealthy! Step back and take time to recharge!
  4. Exhaust-Tap into your resources!

I don’t know about any other boss women but that spoke to my soul. Women in Power Inc. is a non-profit organization that helps women strive in their business goals and aspirations! It is very evident that they stand by their mission statement as women flooded the networking event.

Sharing some of the shots I captured during the event. It was impossible to capture all of the great moments but I am sure these will tell the story.

                                                                                            All things Charlotte Blogger @queenininthecity   

 

If you would like to know more about the organization, the website is http://www.womeninpowerinc.com/

Thank you for stopping by! Make sure if you like the blog to follow and share!

xo, Eve

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How Breaking My Phone, Broke Me

 

Thrifted blazer. Tags were still attached. Tag price $249 #winning

Hi there. It’s been a while. Life has been happening on my end as I am sure it has on your’s as well. But we are still here!! So let me get to the meat of this post.

This past Sunday, I was out enjoying an adventurous evening with my youngest daughter Alivia. She was attempting to ride in this Little Tikes car that she has had since she was a year old and she is now 7, imagine that. Anyway, she is my all things picture taker so I asked her to quickly snap a picture for me. While she was trying to park her car and get prepared to honor my request, my phone slipped out of her hand and splattered all on the concrete (NO, I didn’t have a secure case, I know). She immediately started crying and apologizing. I had to gather my feelings and let her know that I was not upset with her at all and that it was actually all my fault. Our enjoyable evening then became a frantic search for me another phone or a way to mend my phone’s brokenness. Then I became mad at myself. I should’ve been more focused on enjoying our afternoon stroll than worrying about getting that perfect IG picture. As we walked back home after the incident I felt lost.

Lost about my phone and lost about life in that very moment. I truly felt like that broken phone was what I needed. I have said for a while now I needed a break from social media and from chaos and because I wasn’t strong enough to take it for myself, God helped his crazy, little daughter out. Verizon couldn’t help that day so I had to order a new phone. The phone that would take two days to get to me. I remained calmed and focused on making sure I could still use whatever means I had to communicate with my mom and daughters throughout the day. Day 2 came and the delivery person did not leave my phone at my home or the office. Instead of panicking yet again, I continued to enjoy the break that God was clearly giving me. So during this time I decided to think about what life without a phone for these past few days has shown me. It basically allowed me to disconnect from social media’s reality and also showed me myself in real life.  I have allowed social media to take over so much of my life these past few months. Don’t get me wrong, I love the outlet and being able to connect with old and new friends, blogger boos, family and grow different businesses. But none of that can replace the special time, memories and bonds that I have been able to share with my children these past 3 days. One moment I will treasure is coming home from work on Tuesday and my almost 14-year-old daughter, Ayana asked me to sit on the couch and watch a teen, chic movie with her. The movie was actually awesome with a great moral lesson about friendships. We watched the entire movie without any distractions. To have her cuddling with me without either of us on our phones was amazing. Even having uninterrupted story time at night with my youngest has made her world.

Check out my band aid accessory. A broken wine glass caused this accident of course!

I am sure people take mental breaks from social media all the time and that is great if you can and do but if not, sometimes life will force you to. I truly know that God listens to me because when I am not strong enough to do things on my own, he does them for me. Even now that I am back on social media, it will be with limits. I was able to focus more on my 9 to 5 and be more productive at work and at home. I was able to think more clearly about the direction that I want my businesses, relationships and life to go. I realized that I was getting lost in the chaos instead of standing out and creating peace. It hasn’t been a break just from social media, it has been a break from all things stressful, even people. Refocusing on things that are important and growing from the difficulties of life.

I finally got my phone yesterday and it took an act of God and two Verizon technicians to fix a glitch in order for it to work properly. FINALLY around 10pm last night, I was back in technology world. I even made my way to 5 Below and found me a nice old super protective phone case and screen for this delicate iPhone of course. Anyway, I said all that to say this. Don’t look up from your phone or computer one day and your kids are adults, parents are gone, friends are few and relationships are gone. Find a balance. Set limits. I am glad to be back but I have enjoyed being gone!

As always thanks for reading!

xo, Eve

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Liberating 37…….My 37th Birthday in Retrospect

July 15, I celebrated my 37th birthday. I was really thinking that it would feel like just another birthday but actually it doesn’t. I feel so liberated. So free to be completely me. I wanted to do 37 lessons I’ve learned in 37 years but truthfully I don’t have the time to devote to my own thoughts.

So let me just share a few of them with you.

1. I’ve learned how to breathe.

Not literally but figuratively. I have learned how to just pause and breathe when life seems to be beating the heck out of me. I realize that some things just have to happen. It’s not what happens to me but how what happens to me changes me for the better. So if you are always a super busy mom, wife. friend. whatever your role is, give yourself the gift of breathing.

2.  Pray.

I know it sounds so cliché but I really don’t care. Practice praying. Not how someone else does it but how you are lead. Prayer has kept me alive for 37 years. Trust me, I know. Not only my prayers but those of surrounding love ones who knew to pray when I didn’t have the strength to pray for myself.

3.  Get rid of drama.

Seriously. Enough already. If you don’t protect your peace, who will? Vow to be drama free. You will feel be calmer and able to hear from God as to what His plan and purpose is for your life. Plus I’m getting too mature to keep telling folks what they should already know.

4. Dress to impress.

Do your best. Just make sure if you’re slaying on the outside that your inside is just as pretty. Nothing like a pretty, ugly person! (I think I made that up, but I like it:)) OH, Go thrifting. You’ll look good on a dime! I promise. 

5. Stay connected to not-just-transactional friends.

I have some bomb-ass friends. Let me just say that. I mean the real deal kinda chics. The ones who loan me money when I am struggling. The ones who pray for me when I am hurting. The ones who don’t judge when I am being trifling. They love me in action and with words. Get you some of those because I am not sharing.

6.  Own your mess.

It’s not easy but you gotta do it! Once you own it, no one can use it against you. There is so much freedom in owning your mess. I have been in a messy separation for the last few years and it has taken a lot for me to own my mess. But now that I have and I have used it to be better, you can’t tell me nothing. It’s been worth every stressful event that has happened.

7. Inspire others.

There is something in you that is inspiring. We don’t live for ourselves all the time. Sometimes we live for others. Someone  is watching to see if you make it so they have the hope that they can too. Don’t let them down. It’s a lot of pressure but it’s for a promise. You already know who our Promise Keeper is! And remember you aren’t living life alone.

8. Watch Dirty Dancing and believe in love

Yep, that’s my favorite movie. My freshman roommate turned bestie and I used to watch it daily. It made us smile and believe that love is out there. Even if we miss the mark a few times, the bullseye is coming and we will hit it spot on.

9.  Don’t let people into your life so quickly or give away your last name before a new one is worthy

This has been the  hardest lesson for me to learn. Sometimes the past pushes us into the future so fast that we forget to stop and breathe (lesson #1) Make a promise to yourself to take time for yourself. Don’t allow people to read the entire book of you before you are ready. Honor yourself and they will honor you.

10.  Stop living in denial, face reality.

Whew, this last one is direct and hard. It’s not always easy. It’s usually painful but you will come out so much stronger. Denial keeps you hurt. Forgiving and loving others  allows to you live freely. Don’t worry about what you imagined life to be, focus on what it is and faith through it! 

So with these 10 lessons, I really have millions more but take them in and apply. Life is too short to be anything but living! Thank you for reading and thanks for all of the birthday love shown.

 

xo, Eve

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Getting back to Me……..

This weekend I was granted an awesome opportunity to speak to a group of ladies about my passion, defining your style on a budget and owning it. Several ladies came together for the purpose of learning more about enhancing their image and brand (reputation). The host of the event was Sandra Hardy, creator of the Brand and Image company Bootz to Heels. She discussed how to get the most out of life by making sure your image represents who you truly are. Women are always transitioning into so many different roles, it’s always great to have some guidance along the way.

One of the main points I took away from her presentation was that your brand is nothing more than your reputation. It is what you leave a company or a potential client, when you walk away. Would that first encounter be one that would give you access to a second encounter? Tie all that in with your style and confidence and you are on your way to establishing a reputation that will bring you much desired success.

Feedback from the guests at the event, as well as  general conversation this weekend with some girlfriends, inspired this blog posting.

Are you remembering the Me in your life? Yourself? The lady who wears so many hats? Many women take care of the them, they, and those but what about the Me? I often hear my clients repeat the same statement, “I feel like I have lost Me.” Spouses, work, kids, family, friends, life!!!! So much of everything takes away from us to the point that we feel like we don’t know who we are anymore. We have to get back to taking care of our core. Yes, we have evolved but that doesn’t mean that we have to lose who we are deep down inside. The woman who wasn’t afraid to snort out loud from laughing so hard. The woman who would put on a pair of heels just to give your husband something to look forward to after work. The woman who wasn’t embarrassed to let their child have a meltdown in public because hey they have bad days too! I love styling myself and others. Looking the part does nothing if our core being is suffering. There have been days when I looked my absolute best and no one knew that on the inside I was crushed. Your outside doesn’t have to show all of your emotions but wouldn’t it be nice if we had some time to focus on making sure that the inside matched the outside?

Life will have you looking beat down but you have to decide to stand back up even when you fall down. We can’t do EVERYTHING but with God ANYTHING is possible!  Plan things that will pour inspiration and motivation into you as you’re depleted while pouring out to others. A retreat, an event, a girls getaway, a conference!  Your future-self will love you for it and your present-self will be even more grateful! As one of my favorite singers Tamia sings in one of songs, And her name is Me and she loves me more than you’ll ever know. And you know if I have to choose, I choose Me!

 

Thanks for reading,

xo, Eve

 

 

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Why I “DID NOT” Go Natural….My transitioning journey!

Hi loves. So gentle disclaimer before I start writing. I am in no way a naturalists or know anything about natural hair journeys other than my own. It’s crazy that  I even feel like I need to put this but any-who!

In October of 2015 I decided that I was going to take a chance at the “going natural” life. I DID NOT just wake up one day and say I’m going to go natural to fit into a trend. I was not all of a sudden proclaiming to be a naturalist by any means. So the title might have you confused so let me share why I decided to make that decision.

My mother who is now 70 years old was diagnosed with Sickle Cell Anemia when I was in high school. At that time we had no idea what that meant. We had no idea of the pain that she would begin to experience in her body that even the strongest medications sometimes couldn’t help. The multiple surgeries that she would have to endure due to joint and bone issues. It affected everything down to even her hair. Eventually, her stylist suggested that she to stop using relaxers and permanent hair dye as it was affecting her scalp and causing hair loss due to her condition and medications. As I saw my mother have to continuously cut her hair and transition back into non-chemically treated hair, it was difficult. My mother had been my cosmetologist for years before her condition would no longer allow, so she knew how to deal with the transition. So long story short, I made the decision shortly after to become “creamy crack” free also. It was my way of supporting her because she had to and I just wanted to. I honestly didn’t think I would make it this far.

So almost two years in and I’ve never done the big chop. I transitioned wearing protective styles, head wraps and keeping my hair trimmed and healthy. I’m still not at the point in which I know how to style all of this hair while in its natural state but I’m sure I’ll get there. I had no clue what products work for my type of hair.  I don’t know my hair texture type or number but I’ll get there too. I’m still going to have my hair blowed out and straightened. I don’t even know if I’ll keep this up another ten years but what I do know is the reason I decided to try, is because trying meant something to me and it wasn’t to be trendy.

I felt like I needed to post this because so many women bash each other for the wrong reasons. It’s truly just hair. Whether you grow it, buy it or sell it, it’s yours. You can do whatever you would like with it! What matters most is who you are with or without your hair! So to all my natural sisters out there, you bad! To all my relaxed sisters out there, you bad! To all my bald sisters out there regardless of whether you decided to shave your hair or an illness caused hair loss, you bad! To all my weave wearers out there, you bad! Celebrate uniqueness. We have enough people trying to be normal!

As always thanks for reading!

xo, Eve

 

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