July 15, I celebrated my 37th birthday. I was really thinking that it would feel like just another birthday but actually it doesn’t. I feel so liberated. So free to be completely me. I wanted to do 37 lessons I’ve learned in 37 years but truthfully I don’t have the time to devote to my own thoughts.
So let me just share a few of them with you.
1. I’ve learned how to breathe.
Not literally but figuratively. I have learned how to just pause and breathe when life seems to be beating the heck out of me. I realize that some things just have to happen. It’s not what happens to me but how what happens to me changes me for the better. So if you are always a super busy mom, wife. friend. whatever your role is, give yourself the gift of breathing.
I know it sounds so cliché but I really don’t care. Practice praying. Not how someone else does it but how you are lead. Prayer has kept me alive for 37 years. Trust me, I know. Not only my prayers but those of surrounding love ones who knew to pray when I didn’t have the strength to pray for myself.
3. Get rid of drama.
Seriously. Enough already. If you don’t protect your peace, who will? Vow to be drama free. You will feel be calmer and able to hear from God as to what His plan and purpose is for your life. Plus I’m getting too mature to keep telling folks what they should already know.
4. Dress to impress.
Do your best. Just make sure if you’re slaying on the outside that your inside is just as pretty. Nothing like a pretty, ugly person! (I think I made that up, but I like it:)) OH, Go thrifting. You’ll look good on a dime! I promise.
5. Stay connected to not-just-transactional friends.
I have some bomb-ass friends. Let me just say that. I mean the real deal kinda chics. The ones who loan me money when I am struggling. The ones who pray for me when I am hurting. The ones who don’t judge when I am being trifling. They love me in action and with words. Get you some of those because I am not sharing.
6. Own your mess.
It’s not easy but you gotta do it! Once you own it, no one can use it against you. There is so much freedom in owning your mess. I have been in a messy separation for the last few years and it has taken a lot for me to own my mess. But now that I have and I have used it to be better, you can’t tell me nothing. It’s been worth every stressful event that has happened.
7. Inspire others.
There is something in you that is inspiring. We don’t live for ourselves all the time. Sometimes we live for others. Someone is watching to see if you make it so they have the hope that they can too. Don’t let them down. It’s a lot of pressure but it’s for a promise. You already know who our Promise Keeper is! And remember you aren’t living life alone.
8. Watch Dirty Dancing and believe in love
Yep, that’s my favorite movie. My freshman roommate turned bestie and I used to watch it daily. It made us smile and believe that love is out there. Even if we miss the mark a few times, the bullseye is coming and we will hit it spot on.
9. Don’t let people into your life so quickly or give away your last name before a new one is worthy
10. Stop living in denial, face reality.
Whew, this last one is direct and hard. It’s not always easy. It’s usually painful but you will come out so much stronger. Denial keeps you hurt. Forgiving and loving others allows to you live freely. Don’t worry about what you imagined life to be, focus on what it is and faith through it!
So with these 10 lessons, I really have millions more but take them in and apply. Life is too short to be anything but living! Thank you for reading and thanks for all of the birthday love shown.
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